"If you plan on being anything less than what you were truly meant to be, you will probably be unhappy all the days of your life."

I help individuals and teams move from stuck to stellar!

Counselling Psychologist (PhD) & Qualified Psychometrist | Self-Mastery Coach | AI Ethics & Risk Assessment

Hi, I am glad you are here ...

My guess is, if you have landed here it means that your life is not exactly where you would have liked it to be. Maybe you feel stuck? Unhappy? Completely disconnected from yourself? Unsure about who you are, or what you want from life? No idea what your purpose is?

If you feel a connection with what you’ve just read, you’re exactly where you need to be. As a registered psychologist and qualified psychometrist, I help guide people toward a profound understanding of themselves, helping them cultivate happier, more connected, and purpose-driven lives.

Life is a complex, ever-changing adventure, often filled with unexpected twists and turns that can leave us feeling lost, stuck, or disconnected from our true self. If you are feeling unhappy or uncertain about your path in life, it is a sign that you are at a pivotal crossroads. It is common to assume we can simply “think” our way out of this stuckness, but what we often need is an external perspective—a supportive soundboard. As the saying goes, we do not find our purpose within ourselves alone; we discover it through our connections with others.

You have the power to reclaim a life that is full, authentic, and true to who you are. All you need is a deep-rooted willingness to start.

If you’re ready to take the next step, I’m here to help guide you.

Discover more about my approach and how I can support you by clicking below!

It is the moments of decision
that truly shape your life.


Therapy acts as your compass when you’ve gotten lost.

As a qualified Counselling Psychologist and Psychometrist, I help people, like you, defeat personal challenges that are preventing you from living your best life. This may include personal struggles with limiting beliefs, career dissatisfaction, emptiness, loneliness, interpersonal difficulties, perfectionism, body dissatisfaction, depression, anxiety, burnout, addictive behaviours, and/or interpersonal difficulties.

I believe that learning to become aware of your unconscious patterns, internalised beliefs, patterned behaviours, and views of the world, really empowers you to change what needs changing. It also helps you understand who you are, why you do the things you do, what shaped you, and how you can leverage this to become the person you really want to be.


We do not find meaning inside ourselves, we find it in others.

Do you have an unexplained restlessness in your core? A feeling that you were meant for more? Doing more? Do you feel like you are not fulfilling your dreams and full potential? Do you feel lost or stuck in life? Feeling like things are meaningless? Have you attained success but you still feel hollow inside?

Research has repeatedly shown that the biggest regret people have in life is not living up to their full potential and not taking action towards fulfilling their dreams. Your life does not have to be this statistic. You can change that, starting today!

Through my personal development coaching, I help those who are driven to discover their true selves and acknowledge their dreams through self-discovery and actionable insights. I help them move out of their own way, and create the meaningful, fulfilling and successful lives they’ve been yearning for.

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